She Hesitated in Giving Me Her Contact, But I Later Married Her

Author: Funmito Obafemi

Published: June 12, 2026

She Hesitated in Giving Me Her Contact, But I Later Married Her

“We don’t stay angry for long. Our disagreements last only about 30 minutes to an hour”, says Francis

“In our home, there is no ‘my money’ or ‘your money’, says Francis

On this week’s edition of LoveLens Stories, we meet Mr Francis, whose love story began with a refusal, and a 30-minute conversation that changed everything.

Mr. Francis shares how that moment led to marriage within a year, and the values that have kept their union strong ever since.

How did you meet your wife, and what caught your attention?

Mr. Francis: I met my wife when she was on her way to buy something for her parents. I was coming from the University of Ibadan at that time. What first caught my attention was how she dressed. I really appreciate a lady who presents herself well, and she stood out to me immediately.

I approached her, and we had a one-on-one conversation. At first, she wasn’t willing to give me her number. We talked for about thirty minutes before she eventually agreed.

It was from there that we started communicating. That was in 2021. We began dating that same year and got married in 2022.

3 years down the line, what are your favorite things about her?

Francis: She has a very unique character. Since I met her, I don’t really see anything special in other women because I’ve found everything I want in her. Character-wise, she’s amazing, and health-wise, she’s also doing well. To me, she has everything I could ask for in a partner.

What’s the biggest challenge you’ve faced so far?

Mr. Francis: I wouldn’t say we’ve faced any major challenges, but like every relationship, we have our disagreements. The good thing is that they don’t last long.

Sometimes, the disagreements come from moments where she handles situations in her own way.

What’s your parenting method?

Francis: Our child is still young, so we focus on guiding and correcting him with care. We believe in discipline when necessary, but with balance.

I also remind my wife to be mindful of how she corrects him, so it doesn’t become too harsh. We’re intentional about raising him with understanding, patience, and proper guidance.

How have you supported each other’s goals in your marriage?

Francis: My wife and I are both graduates, and we support each other in our goals. She is currently working on a project, and since I studied Mathematics, I help her with her assignments or when she needs clarification. We always try to be there for each other and contribute in any way we can.

What role has faith played in your marriage?

Francis: God has been the pillar of our marriage. Without Him, I can’t do anything. We’ve seen His hand in every area of our lives. From our finances to raising our child. Whenever we pray, God answers us. His presence is evident in our home. He has truly been the foundation of our family.

How do you handle roles and responsibilities in the family?

Francis: In our home, we don’t see things as “my money” or “your money.” Our money belongs to each other. That understanding makes things easier. We both contribute financially and support each other where needed.

Sometimes she handles certain expenses, and other times I do. It all depends on the situation. She has access to my ATM card and the PIN. The same applies to me. There’s no strict boundary.

We trust each other completely. When it comes to house chores and raising our child, we do it together. It’s a shared responsibility, and that’s what keeps things running smoothly.

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What advice would you give to single men and married men?

Francis: For single men, I would advise them to pray and ask God for the right partner. When they make the right choice, many things in the relationship and marriage become easier.

For married men, understanding is very important. Don’t try to dominate or prove that you are superior. Your wife also has her rights. When there is mutual respect and understanding, everything will work better.

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